The reasons are numerous. Even for the happiest of families, the holiday season can be stressful. Hosting friends and family, financial pressures stemming from gift shopping, decorating the house and preparing extravagant meals; we all put tremendous pressure on ourselves to execute the perfect holiday celebration. However, in the process of taking on these tasks, we often put unattainable expectations on ourselves and others, resulting in aggravation, resentment, or even full-out war.
For many, the holidays are a time of personal reflection. Visiting with family and friends often means catching up on the events of the past year, which can stir up feelings that may have been suppressed by the minutia of daily life throughout the year. In reviewing the events of the past year (or the past few years), you may realize that your hopes for your marriage were not realized, and this may trigger a need for change.
The post-holiday lull is a time when the reality of an unhappy marriage can really set in. Whether you had a blowout fight with your spouse over the holidays or simply reached your breaking point after months or years of arguing, there is something about the end of the year that can really put things into perspective. The celebration of the New Year is widely seen as a fresh start, and for some that means making the changes that, up until now, they have not found the motivation to do.
Enter divorce lawyers: January is one of the busiest times for us, as the calls come in from those who are determined to change their lives. As always, we encourage you to try everything possible to save your marriage before resorting to divorce. Give yourself some time to recover from the holiday season and try to let go of the unimportant things that make the holidays stressful before making any big decisions about your future.
Wishing you a happy and healthy 2013!
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